Square Off Season Five is done and that would mean a lot of free time for me. Less work (and yes, money), though. But it's all good now that we are currently working on Season Six and I have ample time for the books I bought six months ago and the seven books I just bought last week. (Yes, book stores especially book sales are my weakness I tend to buy even if I have to sacrifice a day's meal -- ohh, that would be a good diet! Haha)
I found this title at Pick-a-Book (a kiosk in ELJ) and it's priced below a hundred so I immediately put it in the counter along with other books I liked.
It looks fun and is something that I would really like to read (and was small, not too thick and with 11px font!) so it was the first thing I read last Friday and finished it right away.
I won't give you a full review but because I'm kind, I will list down the 59 things we should not do while we are looking for happily ever after according to veteran advice columnist, Carolyn Hax.
- READING RELATIONSHIP BOOKS OR OTHERWISE TRAINING TO DATE
- GETTING FAT
- TURNING YOUR NOSE UP AT PICKUP JOINTS
- BEING DESPERATE, SEEMING DESPERATE OR EVEN STANDING NEXT TO DESPERATE WITHOUT A PROTECTIVE SUIT
- SHOPPING ONLINE
- SULKING
- LOSING PERSPECTIVE ON LOOKS
- SCANNING THE ROOM FOR BETTER PROSPECTS WHILE WE'RE TRYING TO TALK TO YOU
- PICKING AT YOUR SALAD
- GETTING TOO CAUGHT UP IN WHO'S PAYING FOR WHAT
- STARTING SENTENCES WITH, "I'M THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO..."
- THINKING WAY, WAY TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF
- HATING YOURSELF
- DRINKING TOO MUCH
- HAVING SEX BEFORE YOU MEAN IT
- NOT CALLING
- UNPACKING YOUR BAGGAGE ON THE FIRST DATE
- FORGETTING TO ASK QUESTIONS
- CREATING AN INTIMACY IMBALANCE
- EATING LIKE A PIG
- GETTING ALL EXCITED WHEN THE OTHER PERSON WANTS TO COMMIT QUICKLY, YESTERDAY, NOW
- PINING SILENTLY FOR YOUR "FRIEND"
- BEING INDECISIVE
- HIDING THE OTHER TWENTY-SEVEN PEOPLE YOU DATE
- BEING IN IT FOR THE SEX
- LYING
- HOLDING THE SINS OF THE LAST GUY AGAINST EVERY NEW GUY FOR THE REST OF YOUR NATURAL LIFE
- FORGETTING TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF
- WANTING TOO BADLY FOR THINGS TO WORK
- DATING AFTER THE LOBOTOMY
- TRYING TOO HARD
- BELIEVING IN ESP
- JUDGING PEOPLE IN A VACUUM
- UNDERESTIMATING COMPATIBILITY
- CHOOSING YOUR ACTIVITIES BASED ON CAREFULLY CALCULATED ODDS THAT YOU'LL FIND LUUUV
- EXPECTING SOMEONE TO CRUISE-DIRECT YOUR LIFE
- GETTING SO CARRIED AWAY WITH HOW WELL YOU GET ALONG THAT YOU FORGET ABOUT THE SEX
- THINKING IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOU YOU YOU
- BELIEVING FOR A SECOND THE PERSON YOU'RE CHEATING WITH IS GOING TO DUMP THE SPOUSE AND MARRY YOU AND LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER AND NEVER CHEAT AGAIN
- BELIEVING IF YOU DON'T SPEND EVERY WAKING MINUTE WITH SOMEONE, THEN CLEARLY THAT SOMEONE DOESN'T REALLY LOVE YOU
- GETTING JEALOUS
- SAYING "WE HAVE NO SECRETS" WITH A STRAIGHT FACE
- FEELING THREATENED BY THE FRIENDLY EX
- MISSING (OR IGNORING) RED FLAGS EVEN THOUGH THEY KEEP THWACKING YOU IN THE FACE
- PLAYING IT SAFE - MEN
- PLAYING IT SAFE - WOMEN
- LISTENING TO YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND IGNORING YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
- TOLERATING AN ADULT WHO WON'T STAND UP TO HIS PARENTS
- EXPECTING MARRIAGE TO FIX A PROBLEM
- THINKING YOU CAN OR SHOULD CHANGE SOMEBODY
- USING "MATE" AND "MAID" INTERCHANGEABLY
- THROWING AROUND MARRIAGE ULTIMATUMS
- ACTING ON YOUR REVENGE FANTASIES
- OVER-FISHING THE POND
- STOCKPILING PORN
- BEING A SINGLE PARENT AND HAVING SCREWED-UP PRIORITIES
- BUYING A PAINTING BECAUSE IT MATCHES YOUR SOFA
- RULING OUT THE POSSIBILITY THAT YOU MIGHT ALWAYS BE SINGLE
- LOOKING FOR LOVE
For further explanations and other advice, I guess you have to buy the book yourself or... maybe, I'd be kind enough to lend it to you. :)
I promise you won't go back to me and complain because you wasted 50 minutes (yes, that's how long it took me to finish the book) of your life.
You choose your clothes and your attitude and the paths you'll travel - but you have little say in the paths you cross. So why even try? Why not travel your path for your reasons? You'll have a general sense of where it will lead, which means you'll have the satisfaction of moving your life in a direction of your choosing - and you'll have that satisfaction regardless of what else you pick up (or not) along the way. If you happen to run into love and friendship, all the better. And the thing is, you probably will.
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